Forgiveness and forgetting are two actions that naturally develop when becoming a better person. It is ironic that they are often viewed as difficult and unrewarding. But ask yourself if those who don’t forgive are happier than those who forgive easily. The answer to this question should make all of us rush to be forgiving and willing to let go of the past.
But in our journey to become a better person it is equally important to forgive ourselves. In Becoming a Better Marriage Partner the importance of this can be seen on page 70 were it states: “We want to be intelligently aware of past tendencies so that negative experiences can be avoided or prevented in the future. But if people are to change for the better they need to be believed and accepted in their changed form. Retaining the past is a definite detriment to this.”
Thus the ability to forgive and forget is important in becoming a better person and the ability to do this must be applied to both you and to others. This is an ability that can be developed with practice. Be forgiving when encountering the many little mistakes that are made daily. You need not wait until some great calamity takes place to become forgiving.
The value of forgiving and forgetting to your personal development is that it moves you away from the past. It will help you live in the present and have a positive outlook towards the future.
Your Question: Can a person be too forgiving? What are the benefits you have found when you are forgiving and even willing to forget?
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